Removing The Stigma of Pegging In Relationships

Pegging is now a thing that is not only limited to same-sex couples. Instead, both men and women in heterosexual relationships enjoy giving and receiving this pleasurable sexual act.

Pegging is just another way people explore their sexual fantasies. Hetronormative thinking teaches us that anything penetrating a man is seen as homosexual, even if his fantasy is of a woman doing it. However, this thought is slowly losing taste as couples are opening themselves up to the idea that pegging has nothing to do with your sexuality.

Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them. – THOM YORK

What is Pegging?

Pegging is the sexual act where a person wears a strap-on dildo to have anal sex with their partner. Sometimes peggers are also used instead of the strap-on dildo. What is used will likely be decided by the person the act will be performed on.

In heterosexual relationships, the woman usually becomes the penetrator and the man the penetrated. It is a sensual act between two consenting adults and can be a great bonding experience. The somewhat reversed roles are also comforting for some couples, as women now take on being more dominant in the bedroom and men being on the receiving end. 

Why is There a Common Misconception Between Pegging, Same-Sex Relationships, and Heterosexual Relationships?

The misconception of pegging comes into play because pegging is thought to have originated through same-sex relationships!
Therefore, men often feel ashamed and “Less of a man” when they bring up the topic of anul penetration. 

The same can be said for women. For example, she may feel that if she now tells her partner that she wants to be penetrated annually, he feels he does not satisfy her in the bedroom. 

Pegging in a relationship is not only beneficial to the sexuality of both partners but can also fulfill an emotional need to either feel empowered or protected. Society expects men to be dominant. They need to be providers and sex machines with no feelings, just. Therefore, it is somewhat comforting for men to submit themselves to their partners.

For these reasons, you must talk to your partner openly, ensure them that it is purely a sexual desire and has nothing to do with their current bedroom behavior.

We Are Interested, How Do We Start?

Pegging is not something you can just jump into. You need to make sure it is something both you and your partner are comfortable with. 

To get ready for the act, you need to be prepared:

• Start with anal play: Make sure everyone is comfortable with the act before spending money on tools and toys. 
• Buy a good lube: Lube is essential. It will help during both anal play and pegging. 
• Do research: You and your partner can sit down and research the act. You might even find a few educational videos to help you through the first few steps.
• Find an appropriate toy: When looking at peggers and strap-on dildos, be sure to take size and shape into consideration. Remember that you’ll need to start slowly. 

How Pegging Could Benefit Your Relationship:

As we know, pegging is a very intimate act, which could help you and your partner have a deeper understanding of your bodies. It could also help you experience sex differently. Women are usually on the receiving end of sex. The roles are now swapped, making things different and exciting.

The Top Reasons Why Pegging is Beneficial for Relationships

• You experience a new form of intimacy in the bedroom.
• Your sex life flame is reignited, and more sex is often had when new things are tried.
• You will likely experience intense orgasming you have not experienced before.
• As you and your partner get to know each other better in the bedroom, your relationship will change, and you might even start to feel like newlyweds again.
• You and your partner now have a naughty little secret that makes it all the more fun.

Peg Me, Please

You need to remember that your sex life does not have to be discussed outside your relationship. Ultimately, you trust your partner, and what happens between the sheets stays between the sheets, and it could open up a whole new world for you both.