Buying your first strap-on is definitely a thrilling experience. So many shapes, colors, and sizes… How do you choose? Well, like any other purchase you make, there are a few things to take into consideration. First, investing in a good strap-on will cost you less in the long run. You know the saying, “You can’t put a price on quality”.
Are there Actually Different Types of Strap-Ons?
Yes! Each one is different from the other to fit your body type and level of comfort.
Certain strap-ons could be uncomfortable for someone with a fuller figure. Others could just not fit your aesthetic.
Finding a strap-on that you’re comfortable in is much easier if you familiarise yourself with the different kinds:
Certain strap-ons could be uncomfortable for someone with a fuller figure. Others could just not fit your aesthetic.
Finding a strap-on that you’re comfortable in is much easier if you familiarise yourself with the different kinds:
A harness with a removable dildo:
This is a more basic strap-on. The removable dildo makes changing sizes much easier.
Just remember to buy O-Rings that fit your dildo’s size. You can measure the interior diameter of the O ring and compare it to the diameter of the dildo to find the perfect fit.
Unisex strap on harness:
People can wear this gender-inclusive harness with both a penis and a vagina. It has 4-way straps that fit comfortably around the waist and thighs. It’s also a comfortable choice for all body types. It is recommended for those who’d like to wear a heavier or bigger-sized dildo. The straps make it a sturdier option, especially for wearers with a penis and scrotum.
Vibrating Strap Ons:
What a time to be alive! A vibrating strap-on allows for endless pleasure. It comes with a little controller that can attach to the harness so that you or your partner can adjust the vibration to your liking. It is easier worn by people with vaginas, as the placement doesn’t allow much space for a penis and scrotum.
Hollow Strap-Ons:
This is a fun and inclusive strap-on for those who suffer from erectile dysfunction. This specific strap-on is hollow on the inside, allowing the wearer to insert their penis. Some of these have recessed openings big enough for someone to insert an erect penis as well. The harness itself is much sturdier as to hold the penis as well as the dildo. This might be uncomfortable for some wearers. If so, remember to check out the crotchless unisex strap mentioned above.
Pegging Strap-Ons:
This strap-on is designed explicitly for the deed. The slim design of the dildo allows for easy anal penetration. It also has an ever so slight curve that adds extra enjoyment by stimulating the prostate. You can, of course, buy one in your preferred size. Any toy with a flat base can be added to this harness if it won’t slip through the O-Ring. The removable dildo is great for easy cleaning and switching between sizes.
The Vac U lock:
This harness comes with interchangeable attachments to fit all your needs. The little plug, as shown above, slides into the attachment at the bottom opening. It’s also unisex, making it an even better deal. This is generally a more expensive option, but it has a more lifelike feel. In addition, the soft material is often a more comfortable option compared to the other harnesses.
The strapless strap-on:
Oh boy! The strapless strap-on is an excellent choice for partners with vaginas and can also be used as a pegging device. The strapless strap has a little plug inserted into the vagina and a forward-facing shaft to penetrate the partner. You might need to give it a helping hand as the vagina is self-lubricating, which may cause the plug to slip out. Nevertheless, it’s worth a try for spontaneous couples.
What is Your Partner Into?
It’s essential to find out what your partner might like when purchasing a Strap-on. Although the “big purple one” might look exciting, your partner could have other thoughts. If they are the ones being penetrated, be sure to discuss sizes or colors with them. Perhaps they’d love to be penetrated with the color blue. But, on the other hand, they might also feel that a smaller, thinner dildo would suit their needs better.
Look For Gear That Fits You
Your partner could also be the one wearing the strap-on. They must choose one that works well with their body type. You don’t want them uncomfortable during the deed. To make sure that both you and your partner’s needs are met, take the time to go to a naughty shop together. Not only will you be assisted by friendly, helpful staff, they’ll also be able to guide you on sizes and harnesses to suit all your requirements.
Safety First
Safety is an integral part of any sexual act. Follow these safety tips before your purchase and afterward to ensure that everything goes smoothly!
Try it on!
This is especially important for first-time buyers. You need to ensure that your movement isn’t restricted and that your dildo or vibrator fits comfortably. This is especially important if you have a vagina, as you’re not used to something swinging between your legs.
Check those straps
You need circulation! Be sure that the straps keep the dildo and harness in place but aren’t so tight that they stop the blood flow. Your dildo and harness might move around a bit. That’s fine. You’ll know that your straps aren’t tight enough when the harness and dildo slip around your hips and crotch.
Communication
Speak to your partner during the act. You won’t feel your fake penis, so it might be hard to notice if something isn’t right. Instead, ask your partner how they’re feeling during the act. If it’s too tight a fit or you’re hitting spots that don’t feel as good, you won’t know. Keep an eye on their body language and ask them frequent questions about their experience.
Get To Know Your Strap-On
When you first purchase a strap-on, whether it be your first ever, or your first time using this specific model. It might be good to get to know this brand-new tool. But, first, try it on to see how it first affects your body. Get a feel for how you would move in it. Of course, if it is comfortable, and then feel and play with the dildo itself, this may be a good thing for your partner to do as well, as they will be able to feel more comfortable having this dildo used on them after they have seen and felt it outside of the bedroom.
Don’t Be Shy To Use Lube
The anus isn’t self-lubricating. Therefore it is essential to add lube before and during pegging. This will prohibit your partner from internally tearing or being injured in any way and not enjoying the pegging session. To promote pleasure, think of the amount or natural lubrication a vagina creates, and add that, plus some extra.
The First Test Run
Prepare yourself for some awkward moments. The first time using a strap-on could be a bit challenging. You now have an attachment to your body that was never before there. The first few times will always be a bit of a struggle. Don’t feel bad. Instead ask your partner to help you maintain your thrusts and depth, as you don’t really have much feeling. Find a position that’s easy and comfortable for both of you, and take it from there.
Keep it Clean
Even if it’s only being used on one person, keeping your strap on clean is essential. Some dildoes are dishwasher safe, believe it or not. But a good toy cleaner is the best choice. Be sure to wipe down the dildo before and after sex and wash the harness regularly. You and your partner’s pleasure fluids can stick to it, and if not cleaned properly, can cause some problems with the subsequent use. If you see multiple partners, using a condom isn’t a bad idea. It might sound silly, but your toy could still potentially transmit STDs or infections between your partners. Wearing a condom will add extra safety and make the cleaning somewhat easier.
Strap Me Down
Purchasing your first strap-on doesn’t need to be. However, ensuring that you and your partner have an open line of communication when making your first purchase will result in you having a pleasurable strap on session in the bedroom.
